Mark Stanley Lacey, age 54 of Ridgefield, CT passed away from a brief yet brutal battle with Rhabdomyosarcoma on Friday, May 14, 2021. Mark had many exceptional qualities chief among them was the love he had for his family, his unfaltering faith in God, and the genuine kindness that he showed to everyone he met. He touched the hearts and souls of many people during his life and leaves behind a legacy of love and compassion.
He is survived by Darrian (Zaslowe) Lacey, his wife of 22 years, and his beautiful children, Jonah (21), Mairead (18), Isabella (16), Roan (13), and his dog Dash who he always had a peanut butter pretzel for. He is also survived by his parents, John and Barbara Lacey, his in-laws, Peter and Nancy Zaslowe, siblings, Michael, Stephen, John, and Kathleen, many sisters and brothers-in-law, and fourteen nieces and nephews, all of whom he loved dearly and who dearly loved him.
Mark was born in Syracuse, NY on September 14, 1966, and grew up in Marcellus, NY. He attended Bishop Ludden High School, where he was a standout goalkeeper for the Gaelic Knights’ soccer team. However, his true love was ice hockey. He was a goalie for many ice hockey teams but his favorite team to play for was Frankie’s Chinese Steakhouse. In 1988, he graduated from American University in Washington, D.C. with a degree in International Studies and Economics. While attending American University Mark joined and became president of the Alpha Sigma Phi fraternity, where he made many exceptionally close lifelong friends.
Mark was an experienced Managing Director working in the Financial Services Industry. He was a business development professional skilled in Capital Asset-Backed Security, Mortgage-Backed Security, Fixed Income, and Derivatives. However, if you asked Mark directly he would have told you he was “just a Computer Programmer.”
Mark found joy in the busy activity of daily life in the Lacey household and was the steadfast calm in the constant storm. He held up his family with his quiet, stable presence, dry sense of humor, daily reading of all news sources, and his love of TikTok. The dinner table discussions were never boring with topics ranging from foreign policy, human rights, and Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. We will sorely miss our most reliable source. Mark could always be found close to his computer snacking on a frozen yogurt pop. He loved growing plants from seed for his garden, enjoying a good glass of red wine and a ribeye, and his happy place was wandering Whole Foods for hours on end. He found true joy in watching his children pursue their passions whether it be Jonah playing basketball, Mairead debating, Isabella playing viola, or Roan playing ice hockey.
Mark’s faith was never shaken even as he battled cancer. His inner peace stemmed from his unwavering faith in God which sustained him throughout his life. He was a member of St. Mary’s Roman Catholic Church of Ridgefield, CT.
For those that were fortunate enough to know Mark, smile and laugh hard, really hard, he wouldn’t want it any other way. For those that didn’t know him, smile as well, he wouldn’t want it any other way. In the words of Mark Lacey… “It’s time to go to bed.”
A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Friday, May 21, 2021 at 3:30 PM at the St. Mary’s Church School Hall; 183 High Ridge Avenue, Ridgefield. Facial coverings are required at the funeral mass.
A reception celebrating Mark’s life will follow immediately after the funeral mass at the Lounsbury House; 316 Main Street, Ridgefield. Interment will take place privately, there will be no calling hours.
In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in memory of Mark to: St. Mary’s Roman Catholic Church, 55 Catoonah St. Ridgefield, CT 06877 http://smcr.org or Weill Cornell Medical Center (information to follow).
Kane Funeral Home, Ridgefield is in care of funeral arrangements.